There are ONLY two reasons why you don’t already have what you want. 🔥
Either you don’t actually want it
You have resistance to having it.
Everything else that’s taught in the self development world is fluff. Unnecessary. Or made up.
What I’ve noticed, especially in the USA, is that we’re all conditioned to believe we have to constantly improve, get better, make more, do more yada yada yada.
And to some extent, that can be helpful. But what I’ve come to understand is that there is point we all get to in self-development where we become addicted to “healing.” Addicted to “fixing.” Addicted to “what is the next problem I can solve.”
“The next level I can get to.”
I had to admit that too. I totes got trapped in that cycle. It made me look really accomplished on the outside, but made me miserable on the inside.
And we’re mostly taught to “do” the healing.
That the improvements come through DOING more. Adding more.
More books. More masterminds. More energy work. More coaches. More marketing. More healing.
More more more
There is a HUGE difference between seeking healing/improvement and BEing well.
Feel it for a sec…
Seeking the next level. The next thing?
There’s reaching energy in that.
And reaching will keep you away from the thing you say you are seeking.
I fell into that trap.
When I had my first 30k month years ago, for example, do you know what my first thought was?
“Well, it wasn’t 50k. There must be something wrong with me if I’m not at 50k months already.”
Then I proceeded to waste, literally waste, tens of thousands of dollars hiring coaches who claimed they could get me there….by “scaling” or “hiring a team” or “doing this strategy” or “doing this marketing.” Because I saw 30k months as a problem that needed to be fixed. 🤣
None of that worked.
Because doing it their way wasn’t really what I wanted.
I desire to follow my II (Innate Intelligence) and do things that are correct for me. Correct for my human Design. For my soul.
That’s the only way I scale now.
That’s another post, but the point here is that the thing that ACTUALLY creates the most fulfilling SUSTAINABLE success and external expansion isn’t more doing.
It’s Internal expansion. It’s more being. It’s deepening into YOU. The real you.
The New Paradigm of Success™️ that I teach is about creating lasting, fulfilling, sustainable success.
All in the podcast episode that went live today, Max and I talk about how simple the metaphysics is here.
This episode is 39 minutes of AMAZING and I’ve already gotten texts from people who had breakthroughs just listening to it. Check it out here:
The episode is called “Do We Need To Heal?” 🔥
Life is simple.
If you don’t have what you say you want, it’s because you don’t really want it or you have resistance to having it. 🔥 That’s it.
Then the “work” just turns more and more into identifying what you need to surrender, trust or let go.
And the work? it’s SUPPOSED to be fucking fun. Exhilirating. Yummy. Sexy. Playful.
All this is in the podcast.
Plus we spill some Tea on dating in a pandemic (which for me, has been BETTER than dating before it 👑)
Max and I riff about Drag shows and our night out clubbing in New York City pre RONA this year.
Check it out.
The TWO reasons why you don’t already have what you want
August 18, 2020